Communication has certainly been the largest obstacle in our marriage. Men and women just communicate differently. In fact, most people do not communicate similarly, therefore, many conflicts arise.
Neither of us have been "super spiritual" in our conversations with one another. We haven't pulled the "God card" as some call it. We didn't grow up in homes where people say things like, "the Lord told me such and such". So, we've never used spirituality to attempt to manipulate one another or win an argument. This has been interesting since we have both matured significantly in the Lord since our wedding day. We are walking more often in the Spirit and therefore at times we do sense that the Lord is leading us in one direction or another. We're making progress in communicating this to one another.
A few years ago acquaintances of ours were planning to start their own church. We had just left our church (of 12 years) and were excited to join the other couple in their efforts. Well, I was excited. My husband had some hesitation to commit. He didn't vocalize his concern in a specific way so I thought he was feeling intimidated by the thought of being part of the new church's leadership. In short, it was a mistake. The other couple had some anger issues and those issues caused some mistakes to be made during the very early days of the new church. Ultimately the church disbanded at the end of a year.
